Loving our birthparents can be so hard. I do not really know anything about my birthparents, so I will not be talking about if you do because that’s just not my story. One thing I do know is that my birth mom was in and out of the hospital. Throughout my life, I’ve struggled with feeling any love for her. I have always been comforted with the fact that she chose life for me. Although that’s true, it is traumatic being adopted. God didn’t create life to be like this. Family was meant to stay together forever. Sadly, that’s not reality anymore.
When you know someone gave you to complete strangers after carrying you in their stomach for nine months, it’s extremely difficult to feel any love for them. “Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers all wrongs.” (Proverbs 10:12) Hating your birth mom is easy. It’s easy to blame for for every complication you have in your life. But yes, we are called to love. It’s way easier said than done. It’s a constant journey.
1 Peter 4:8 says, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” Love your birthparents. Again, it will be hard and it’s easier said than done. I promise you, once you do that, it will make this life-long process of coming to terms with being adopted a whole lot easier.